Starting over isn’t limited to your business and career. Relationships are often subject to “do overs,” as well. Whether it’s professional, friendly or intimate relationship advice you’re seeking, I have found keeping this unique analogy for relationships at front of mind to apply universally. Some great relationship advice given to me a while back is to think of relationships like bank accounts. It’s a rather cold analogy, however, the logic is simple and sound.
When opening a bank account, one typically needs to first make a deposit. For the account to strengthen and function properly, more deposits than withdrawals are necessary. This is where many people fail in relationships, they start withdrawing too quickly and in excess of the deposits made. As bank accounts end up overdrawn, so do relationships. In result, people bounce from relationship to relationship just like they do from bank to bank. Funny… as I write this it appears there’s just as much room for financial advice in starting over as there is relationship advice.
Here are four tips to keep your relationships out of “overdrawn” status:
1. Serve – Keep your eyes and ears open for what others around you may need or want and do what you can to help them get it. Serving a friend or colleague in this manner will fill up the relationship bank as fast as anything, and it doesn’t have to be “over-the-top” service either. Simple gestures of a ride to work, a pat on the back or a business referral. For this to work, however, do it sincerely and expect nothing in return. Serve willingly and serve often.
2. Communicate – There wouldn’t be much need for relationship advice if more people just communicated out of genuine interest in one another. Be careful not to pick up the phone just when you need something. A simple call just to say hello and a “How are you?” fills up the relationship bank, too.
3. Be positive – Nobody likes the chronic cynic or complainer. The glass is half-full or half-empty at all times. Be the half-full person.
4. Listen – God gave us two ears and one mouth. The best relationship advice I’ve ever been given is to use them proportionately. Listen ‘til it hurts. Listen as if you’re going to be tested at the end of the conversation.
By following these four simple tips of relationship advice when starting over, your relationship accounts should grow exponentially.Read More