Just Dreams? Or Reality Waiting to Happen? That is the Question! | DO 14

What gets you out of bed in the morning? Do you get up because you have to, or because you want to? Imagine a life as if every day was the first day of Summer vacation! Who would you be? What would you do? What would you have? A life of no limits is yours for the taking, and in this episode Matt reveals how your dreams are mere reality waiting to happen.

“Some people want it to happen, some wish it would happen, others make it happen.” -Michael Jordan

Reality waiting to happenWhat gets you out of bed in the morning? Do you get up because you have to, or because you want to? Imagine a life as if every day was the first day of Summer vacation! Who would you be? What would you do? What would you have? A life of no limits is yours for the taking, and in this episode Matt reveals how your dreams are mere reality waiting to happen.

“Some people want it to happen, some wish it would happen, others make it happen.” -Michael Jordan

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Matt: Hey, this is Matt, “The Do Over Guy.” Glad to be back online. And this is Your Do Over: Episode 14.

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Matt: Welcome to Your Do Over, coming to you from Downtown Los Angeles. This is the place where once a week – actually, we’re doing it two times this week – that you will hear, learn, and take action on the ignored, underestimated, and unknown steps to producing results.

This is the show where I show people dissatisfied with their current situation how to start over and begin a new life setting goals and objectives so they can create wealth and live life to the fullest easier, faster, smarter and to get a head start and lay a solid foundation for a better life, regardless of what that life looks like for you.

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Last episode, we discussed shifting our focus using the power of questions. Whenever faced with adversity or a challenge or a problem, I always coach people to stop focusing on what’s happening and start focusing on what you want to have happen.

The way that you shift your focus is by implementing the use of empowering questions. I gave you a list of 25 empowering questions on the last episode. If you didn’t get those, you can still get them. They’re in the transcripts at www.TheDoOverGuy.com. You can go there and look at the whole list.

They can literally transform your life. If you read that list, you’ll notice that the very last question was, “Are my dreams big enough or have they waned with age?”

It’s no coincidence that that question was the last one on the list, because it leads us into what we’re going to discuss today.

The question again: Are my dreams big enough or have they waned with age? Have they gotten smaller?

When you were five years old, what did you want to be when you grew up? What did you want to do? What did you want to have? What were the answers to those three questions when you were ten years old, 15 years old, 20 years old?

What are the answers to those questions right now? Are you who you originally dreamed of being? Are you doing what you originally dreamed of doing? Do you have everything you originally dreamed of having or did you settle?

Did you once dream of being a rock star, a ballerina, an astronaut, an actress? Where did reality kick in and redirect you? At what age did you dream of doing what you’re currently doing right now? Or did you ever? Have you settled?

Certainly our interests are going to change with age. So it’s not necessarily sticking with the same dream throughout life to which I’m referring, but it is the size of the dream.

As you moved your way through life, your childhood passion of exploring outer space might have morphed into a passion for discovering a cure for cancer or eradicating world hunger or inventing the next thing that makes the world an easier place to live.

The question is: are you pursuing your passion? Are you pursuing your dream? It’s only when you are pursuing your passion, when you are pursuing your dream that you’re going to be hopping out of bed in the morning excited about what the day holds for you.

Dreams and passions can, and often do, change. But what you’re going to want to monitor for change, however, is the size of your dreams and passions.

Throughout the years, have they increased or decreased in size? If you dream it and you believe it, it’s not a dream. It’s reality waiting to happen.

It doesn’t really matter whether it’s a big dream or a small dream. It takes no more effort to manifest those big dreams as it does the small ones. As long as you believe in that dream, it’s not a dream; it’s reality waiting to happen. The world is replete with evidence that this is so.

Evidence is everywhere. Bruce Springsteen once dreamed of being a rock star. Robert De Nero once dreamed of being an actor. Neil Armstrong once dreamed of golfing to the moon. Tiger Woods once dreamed of being the world’s greatest golfer. Benjamin Franklin once dreamed of harnessing electricity.  Mahatma Gandhi once dreamed of a free India. Martin Luther King, Jr. once dreamed of raising the consciousness of civil rights and ending racial segregation.

They all had a dream. They all believed in their dream. And they all pursued their dream. And they all achieved their dream. What would our world look like if they hadn’t? And if they can do it, why not you?

I feel like I’ve had this conversation with you before. Maybe it was a past podcast episode. But it’s so important, it’s probably worth going over again. In fact, it’s just not optional. If you don’t know where you want to go, you’re never going to get there. It’s easy to lose sight of where you’re traveling. It’s easy to lose sight of what that end destination is. If you don’t check in with it on a regular basis, who knows where you’re going to end up?

Maybe you’ve heard this before. Maybe you’ve heard it from another source. But if you find yourself off track, doesn’t it make sense to hear it again if it’s going to get yourself back on track?

I attended a seminar a while back, a couple years ago now, with Dr. Jay Grossman. He was actually not leading the seminar; he was a participant just like me. He was in the crowd. But he got a chance to stand up and share a story. He’s a dentist and he has a nonprofit organization called Homeless Not Toothless. His organization has been able to establish a program for homeless people in Los Angeles to get free dental care. I believe it has spread nationally since.

At this seminar when Jay shared an encounter that he had with one homeless patient during his free examination, the patient was blessed with the good fortune to have met in his lifetime both Mahatma Gandhi and Martin Luther King, Jr.

Dr. Grossman’s patient went on to share his experience. The two parts of the story that stood out for me the most was first that he had the nerve… This guy had the nerve to ask both Gandhi and King, “Hey, if you were to live your life over, what would you have done differently?” Can you believe it? The guts it would take to ask one of those guys that question after they have accomplished so much.

But the second part of this story that stood out was that Gandhi and King both had the exact same answer to that question. They both answered, “I wish I would have dreamed bigger.”

When I heard this story, the hairs on my arms just stood on end. I had goose bumps everywhere. In fact, I still have them right now. I’m getting them right now as I’m telling you this story today. It’s just so amazing based off of what those guys had accomplished that they didn’t think they dreamed big enough.

That’s why I want you to check in with your dreams. Are they big enough?

That’s a really great story and I really have no way of verifying its authenticity. But knowing what Gandhi and King dreamed, believed, and achieved in their lives, knowing what type of individuals that they were, it’s not difficult to accept that story as unequivocal truth.

What I want you to get out of this is no dream is too big. There is magic, there is power, in dreaming and thinking big.

One of my favorite books is “The Magic of Thinking Big” by Dr. David J. Schwartz. When this book was first recommended to me, my initial thought was, “Not another book on positive thinking. I don’t really need that. I understand I’ve got to think more positive. I don’t need another book to tell me so.”

However, I trusted the referral source, the person that recommended it to me and I was pleasantly surprised. The book was just full of meat. It was replete. It was bursting with meat. So go get it if you haven’t read it.

The greatest danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but it’s that it’s too low when we reach it. Many are waiting for Mahatma Gandhi and Martin Luther King to come back. But they are gone. We are it. It is up to us. It is up to you. It is up to you to dream big. It is up to you to believe in that dream and it is up to you to achieve.

And don’t be afraid to take risks. Risks can be a telling gage of people. It says a lot about their character. And people who avoid them do so to protect what they have. That’s understandable.

But people who take risks, they frequently end up with having more. What I’ve come to know is that if you risk nothing, you risk everything. So you really don’t have a choice. You’re going to risk something.

So be conscious of it and be intentional with what you’re risking. Manage your risks. Don’t be irresponsible. Don’t be foolish. But take risks nonetheless.

For a dream to  come true, you’ve got to have one first. So allow yourself to dream really big and don’t be afraid if it’s a risky dream. You can manage that risk. It just comes with education. It comes with planning.

Big dreams, they lend themselves to big thoughts. Big thoughts create big emotions and it fosters passion. Not only does a dream give you something to aim for, but when a burning desire to achieve that dream is in place, the dream calls you into action.

And when you discover your passion, your mission, your purpose, you will feel its demand. There will be no choice. It will be calling you. Big emotions and passion, they lead themselves to big conversations and actions.

Your dream will fill you with such enthusiasm and excitement to get to work, it will burn. And when that vision is crystal clear and the burn is in place, the daily decisions to take action become easy. Procrastination goes right out the window.

And when those actions become easy, they become habits. And the habits that support the pursuit of your dream, they become habitual. They become automatic. Your habits will shape your character to that of a person capable of achieving your dream, creating a compelling future for you to live into, and the future we create for ourselves gives us who we are today.

But before anything else, you’ve got to have a dream. You must dream. It all begins with the dream.

Unfortunately, what inevitably holds most people back isn’t the quality of or size of their dream, but the lack of the faith they have in themselves. Your biggest obstacle on the road to realizing your dreams is the belief that the dream is beyond reach – or more specifically, beyond your reach.

This belief stems from the many suppressive forces we encounter that cause us to settle for mediocrity. We’ve been bombarded from every single direction that we’re not good enough, that big dreams only belong to big achievers.

But they weren’t big achievers before they had big dreams. They had the big dreams first. Don’t settle for mediocrity.

Whatever dream you’re pursuing, people will always – I mean, always – tell you that you can’t do this or you’ll never be able to do that. These naysayers are inescapable. But you can do it. If it’s been done before, it can be done again and if someone else did it, why not you?

There will always be critics trying to steal your dreams. Don’t let them in. The world belongs to people who say, “I can.” The world belongs to the people that say, “I will.”

And it may seem impossible. It will seem impossible, maybe, depending on the size of your dream. But it will only seem impossible until it’s actually done.

The importance of dreaming big cannot be underestimated. The size of your dream is the first line of defense against negative people, environment, and most of all, negative thoughts. The only difference between you and someone who has achieved what you want to achieve is the size of their dream and time. That’s the only thing that separates you two.

It’s paramount that you revisit your dream constantly, maintain a clear vision of that dream. It’s not uncommon for me to review my dreams. I have them displayed in a dream book two to three times a day. Surround yourself with literature, and sounds, and images and people that remind you and support you in the pursuit of your dream. Don’t let the details block your view. Don’t let doubt and indecision hinder your performance.

Life is short. Aim high. Most fast. Focus. And above all – dream, believe, and you will achieve. I know it’s a cliché. I know you’ve heard it before. All three of those words were chosen because they rhyme and they sound really good, but don’t discount those words just because you’ve heard them before. I know you’ve heard them before. We all have. You all know this stuff.

But are you doing this stuff? To know and not do is to not know. You’ve got to have a dream. The second part of that is you’ve got to believe in it. I know you’ve heard that before as well.

Why is belief so important? You see, what we believe, it comes about. What you think about most of the time is who you are today.

Some people stand in the space of this is a spiritual power, there’s a higher force at work and just because you believe in it, that force is going to come down and assist you in your pursuit. The power of belief.

But the power of belief has support from science as well. So if you’re not a spiritual, new age type of person and you need scientific proof – and oftentimes, I do; not always, but oftentimes – then what I’m about to share is people just like yourself.

You see, the power of belief, it does have a scientific foundation. Much of that has been discovered through something called the Placebo Effect. Now when an inactive and powerless substance improves the health of or cures an ill patient, that effect is called the placebo effect. It’s essentially popping a pill with no medicinal qualities whatsoever and it cures you.

And although the actual mechanism that produces the results of a placebo is still a scientific mystery, enough research has been conducted to strongly suggest that it’s the patient’s expectation or belief that cures whatever ails them.

The Expectancy Effect can be enhanced through factors such as enthusiasm of the doctor, differences in size and color of placebo pills, or the use of other inventions such as injections.

In one study that I was reading the response to a placebo pill increased from 44% to 62% when the doctor gave it with warmth, attention, and confidence.

For most of my life, I underestimated the power of belief. It was not until I witnessed the placebo effect firsthand that I understood the true power of belief.

A few years ago, when I got involved in a direct sales network marketing type company, I signed up under this top producer. This top producer had made millions of dollars in this company and through him teaching me how to do this business, he had me believing that I was really slow, that I wasn’t producing the results fast enough, that I wasn’t working hard and that all of this money that he was making and I was never going to get there unless I really buckled down and started doing what he was doing.

I went through this process with him and I generated $40,000 to $50,000. I can’t remember the exact number, but it was that much money in a 60-day period. He had me believing I was a total loser, that I wasn’t getting it.

After we had some personal differences, I had plugged in with another team inside of the same company. When I plugged in and started interacting with them, I started observing and noticing something. Nobody in that arena was making the type of money I was making. I noticed by interacting with that environment my production started to drop a little bit as well.

When I was in this environment and I believed that I was a loser and I had to pick it up, I really produced. When I got into another environment where I was something actually rather special, that dropped, because all of a sudden, my belief was, “Oh, well, I guess I am doing okay,” so I took my foot off the gas a little bit.

But when my belief was at a point where I’m a slacker and I need to pick it up, I absolutely produced more. My belief was 100% responsible for my results.

My understanding of the placebo effect can be summed up as expectations supported with confidence. I had an expectation to produce a lot of money and I had the confidence that I was hanging out with the right guy to produce it.

Expectations supported with confidence, what that really does is equates to belief. Beliefs are a prevailing character trait among the successful people.

The Napoleon Hill quote, “What the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve,” that’s the foundation of Hill’s philosophy and it bolsters the foundation of every successful person’s character.

Now whether this phenomenon is grounded in your spirituality or it’s grounded in science, what you’ll want to grab from this is what you believe in most comes about. Don’t underestimate the power of belief. It is a force multiplier.

So if what you believe in comes about, you are then what you believe others believe you to be. And you are, to them, in large part, what you believe yourself to be.

So your belief in yourself will inspire it in others. If your belief in yourself is lacking, transform your image to that which you want to become.

Football star, Deion Sanders, used to say something to the effect of, “If you look good, you feel good. If you feel good, you play good. If you play good, you win.”

Like it or not, your image and appearance are a great place to start when your belief in yourself is low. “If you look good, you feel good. If you feel good, you play good. If you play good, you win.” If you truly believe in yourself, others will too. And when they believe in you and when you know that they believe in you, it only increases the belief you have in yourself.

So you’ve got these dreams. Now you’re at a point where “Okay, I need to believe in these dreams. If I’m going to accomplish them, I have to have a dream and I have to believe in those dreams.”

But which dream to follow? A razor-sharp focus is important to achieving your dreams. But where to direct that focus is the questions.

There is a shortcut to figuring this out, by the way. Ask yourself, “What am I passionate about? What do I love doing? When all of my work is done, what is the first thing I go do? What is something I do every single day that I would do for free? What is something that I don’t get enough opportunity to do that I would do for free?”

When your heart rate starts to increase when you’re thinking of the answer to this question, that’s the one to pursue. When you find yourself excited to talk about it, that’s the one to pursue. If you find yourself feeling lukewarm about it, about the answer that’s coming up, ditch it and ask the question again.

And if you’re finding it challenging to come up with a passionate and unique idea, it’s okay. If you don’t have that passion surrounding your dream, it’s okay. Look around. Who is somebody that you respect and admire that’s doing something that you find inspirational?

There’s nothing wrong with eyeing someone else’s dream and morphing it into your own. Inspiration comes from everywhere. Inspiration can come from within your own industry or even a competitor.

Much of my first book was inspired by other great writers and thinkers who came before me. My book evolved from myriad concepts, and fates, and disciplines, and techniques, and strategies, and systems. I didn’t reinvent the wheel; I just merely reshaped it a bit and presented it in a different way that works for me and in a way that can make the difference for you.

Have you ever noticed how you can hear something over, and over and over again, but then one day you hear it in a different way from a different source in a different environment and it finally clicks? You finally get it.

Your dream may come about in the same way. If it does, it’s perfectly okay. In defining your dream, strive to aim beyond what you are capable of. You must develop a complete disregard for what you think your abilities end. You’re so much more powerful than you believe yourself to be. That’s a new belief you can adopt. I am more powerful than I believe myself to be, so if I don’t think I can do that… Oh, but I’m more powerful than I believe myself to be. All of a sudden, I can start transforming and I can do it. I do believe that I can do this.

If you think you’re unable to work for the best company and sphere, make that your aim. If you think your incapable of running a company, make that your aim. If you think you’re unable to be on the cover of Time Magazine, make it your business to be there. Nothing is impossible. Every single week there’s someone on the cover of Time Magazine, so it’s possible. If they can do it, so can you. Why not you?

And once you decide on the dream to pursue, document it. If you don’t, it’ easy to lose sight. It’s easy for your razor-sharp focus to blur. In its simplest form, just write it down. I recommended creating a dream book or a vision board.

For an example of a vision board and step-by-step instructions on how to create your own, you can go to www.thedooverguy.com/yourvision. There’s a great example of a vision board up there. They’re step-by-step instructions. I’m reworking my own right now and I recommended you do it, too.

Create as much detail as possible around your dream using emotional images and bright colors. You’re going to need to call on these images frequently to maintain your focus, to get you past the obstacles, to get you past the tests, to get you past the naysayers because they’re everywhere.

And if your dream isn’t well-engrained inside of you, if that belief isn’t inside of you, if you’re not constantly reminded of that dream, it’s so easy to get derailed. It’s so easy to start doing non-productive tasks.

Clarity around your dream cannot be underestimated. The ability to clearly articulate your dream to others is paramount, by the way. I’m going to elaborate on that in another episode.

For now, know that to obtain your dream, you will need the cooperation of other people. People will follow someone with a clear vision. People love to be around and help people with a clear vision.

Why? Well, in many cases, people are unclear about their own dream and they will follow and support someone with purpose, confidence, and clarity. That’s why it’s important for you to be really clear about your dream and be really clear about what you’re up to in life.

That’s why it’s really important to have this dream book or have your vision board, to constantly remind you on a daily basis of why you’re even getting up and leaving the house to go do what you do.

This is probably a good time to point this out and it may be a good point to end on. If you don’t have your own dream, you’re going to be a part of someone else’s. If you don’t have your own plan, you’re going to be a part of someone else’s. So define yours. It all starts with a dream and belief in that dream.

So let’s stop there. Be with that for a while. Think about it. Meditate on it. Decide what it is you want to go after. What dream do you want to pursue?

Next episode, we’ll discuss your first steps in manifesting that dream, how to begin taking action and making it a reality.

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I am Matt, the Do Over Guy, and I will see you next time on Your Do Over.

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