7 Steps to Getting What You Want | DO 16

If you don’t know where you are going, any road will get you there. However, if you do know where you are going, you believe you can make it and you’re committed to doing what it takes, the Do Over Guy has for you the 7 steps that will reveal the road to your “do over” almost like magic. By the way, struggle is optional. The world is conspiring in your favor.

Road to Your DreamsIf you don’t know where you are going, any road will get you there. However, if you do know where you are going, you believe you can make it and you’re committed to doing what it takes, the Do Over Guy has for you the 7 steps that will reveal the road to your “do over” almost like magic. By the way, struggle is optional. The world is conspiring in your favor.

“There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth; not going all the way, and not starting.”


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Matt: Hey, this is Matt, “The Do Over Guy,” and this is Your Do Over: Episode 16.

Announcer: During an era where countless people, businesses, and organizations are feeling the pinch, running out of time, running out of money, losing confidence, feeling as if life is unfair, praying for another chance and unless something is done, life is going to pass them by. Life is going to pass them by.

Fortunately, in the nick of time, there is now a place where the ignored, underestimated and unknown steps to producing results and making life work are revealed. Save your career. Save your business. Save your health. Save your relationships. Save your life. Get from where you are to where you want to be, faster and with greater ease than you ever thought possible.  Say hello to Your Do Over.

Matt: Welcome to Your Do Over, coming to you live from downtown Los Angeles. This is actually the second time I’ve started to record this podcast, this episode. The sirens this evening were just a little overbearing. But you know what? If they happen to go by again, I’m just going to let it fly. Add a little bit of authenticity to our program.

This is the place where, once a week, you will hear, learn, and take action on the ignored, underestimated and unknown steps to producing results – steps you’re not going to hear anywhere else, that no one else is going to tell you.

This is the show where I show people dissatisfied with their current situation, people whose life isn’t working, or people whose life isn’t working as well as they would like it to be working. Or maybe it’s working really good, but you know there’s something else better out there for you. If that’s you, if you fall into one of those categories, this show is for you as I will show you how to start over and begin a new life, setting goals and objectives so you can create wealth and live life to the fullest and do it easier, faster, smarter.

We are all about working smarter. None of that working hard stuff. If you’re doing what you love, you’ll never work another day in your life. To me, that just sounds downright smart.

So to get a head start and lay a solid foundation for a better life, I invite you to download the Three Pillars of Creating the Ultimate Do Over. That’s yours for free and you can get it at FreeDoOver.com. It’s a 55-minute mp3 audio program that I made just for you – just for you! – with three specific steps on how to get success as you start over.

And it doesn’t matter what you’re starting over. Those three pillars are going to lay the foundation for you to achieve. Think of it as your traveling success coach – a little 55-minute program to get you started, get you started on the right track in your do over. And it’s yours absolutely for free at FreeDoOver.com.

Holy smokes! Big day over at iTunes. This is my single biggest day in podcast downloads. So thank you for listening. I’m so grateful. I’m not even sure why today is so special. Typically, I see a spike in my downloads the day that I release a new episode and perhaps a couple days after that, then it peters out a little bit; it dissipates.

But here we are seven days after I release my last episode and I had my biggest day ever in downloads. Thank you. That’s very exciting.

I wanted to share with you a challenge that a couple of my friends are taking on. You see, we’ve all been talking about getting in shape, but now we’ve thrown our hats over the wall, so to speak, and we’ve challenged each other.

We’ve all agreed that on July 1st of this year, 2011, we will all post a shirtless picture of ourselves on Facebook regardless of how we look. That might not sound like a big deal to you, but if we were to do that right now, it would be a very embarrassing moment for all three of us.

So that is the challenge that we’ve put up four ourselves that’s going to get us going. Hopefully, it’s going to light the fire under our keisters and get us going and actually produce the results. It’s actually one of the unknown steps to producing results that I talk about frequently, and it is throwing your hat over the wall. It’s putting yourself at a higher level, putting your do over at a higher level of accountability.

A lot of times, we’ll work harder to please someone else or work harder to avoid pain rather than pursue pleasure. Having a good body and feeling good about yourself physically is definitely pursuing pleasure, because we know how you feel when you’re healthy and you feel good and you look good. That’s just the essence of pleasure. It feels good.

But then again, when you don’t fit very well in those pants that one day, you don’t like the way you looked in the mirror or you just saw a photograph of yourself and you didn’t really like the way that you looked, that’s a very painful experience.

To put that all up there in the front of the world of Facebook when I’ve got 5,000 friends on my Facebook profile, that’s kind of scary. I’ve got another 300 or 400 on my fan page, so that’s scary.

I’ve got a great plan that I’ve created. I’m taking the P90X workout. I’m taking the Slow-Carb Diet in the new bestseller by Tim Ferriss. He just released a book a month ago or so – “The 4-Hour Body.” So I’m taking his diet plan, the P90X workout plan, and then I’m going to insert Jillian Michaels from The Biggest Loser. She’s got a kettlebell workout video that really seems to kick my butt and hit me in all the right places.

Of course I’m going to be hitting the weight room, and I’m going to be running stadium stairs. Not all of this stuff at once, of course, but I’m just the type of person that needs some variety. So I’ve created my own little regimen. Maybe I’ll write it out for you when I’m all done and call it “The Do Over Body,” whatever it may be. I’ve got to make sure it works first.

But I’m committed to this. Now I’ve got a plan of which I’m going to commit. On July 1st, I’m going to be putting up a picture on Facebook that I don’t know if I’ll necessarily be the utmost proud of, but I’m certainly going to make sure it’s a picture that I’m not embarrassed or ashamed of.

That’s where I left you the last episode. We were talking about commitment. We were talking specifically about commitment to your dreams. Life exists through your dreams. It exists through your commitment to your dreams. You’ve got to have commitment if you’re going to get anything done. That’s the first thing.

The second thing you need is a plan. If you don’t have a plan, who knows where you’re going to end up? That’s what we’re going to talk about today, or that’s what we’re going to create today, is your plan.

Our goals can only be reached through a vehicle of a plan in which we must fervently believe. We talked about that as well. We’ve got to have a dream. We’ve got to have belief in that dream and we have to make a commitment to that dream.

We’ve got to have a plan in which we fervently believe and upon which we most vigorously act. We’ve got to take action. There is no other route to success. There is no quick pill. There is no silver bullet. It’s just having a dream, and having belief in that dream, and making a commitment to making it real, to making it your reality and then just applying a plan to it and following it step-by-step, taking it one step at a time.

To accomplish great things, we must first dream in high definition and believe with an unwavering faith. Only then does it make sense to plan, though. You have to have the other part first before we do a plan, but we’ve done that. The last couple of episodes, we’ve talked about that. We’ve created that together. That’s where we are today.

An effective plan should begin, however, with the end in mind – a goal. A goal must not only be aligned with your dreams, but it’s also got to be aligned with your values.

You see, on the road to my second success, congruency has been a powerful distinction for me. In the past, if I had set a goal that was out of accordance with my values, or my morals, my beliefs and my dreams, I discovered it was really difficult to achieve.

This doesn’t just apply to the goal, but also to the methods in achieving the goal as well. For example, if your goal is in alignment with your values but you pursue a shortcut to your goal that is out of alignment with your values, the road to achieving that goal can be riddled with bumps, and potholes, and booby traps, and setbacks. It’s going to be a lot more difficult.

By taking in congruent shortcuts, you will eventually recognize, oftentimes too late, that you’ve injected unnecessary struggle into the pursuit of your goals. The universe doesn’t want you to struggle. Just flow with the universe.

We talked about the Be, Do, Have way of living. If you want to be successful, first you have to be successful. Then you have to do what successful people do. And by going in that order, you will have what successful people have.

So, struggle. It’s optional. If you’re struggling, you might not be doing it right. There’s an easier way. That’s why we’re here.

Step one: Defining your dreams and creating your goals

The exercise I’m about to share with you is one that I perform twice a year. It’s a brainstorming exercise that confirms that my dreams and goals are still important to me. You’ve got to check in every once in a while.

As I shared before, it’s okay to change your dreams and goals, but you want to make sure that you’re maintaining their size. You want to make sure they are big.

You want to begin with a blank piece of paper and a timer. Set the timer for ten minutes. If you’re exercising right now or driving right now, don’t let this time pass by. Go ahead and listen to what’s going on so you know what’s coming up, but make time for yourself to actually do this exercise. If you do not, this is entirely a waste of time. This is not Your Learn Over – this is Your Do Over. This is all about doing.

If you’re right there with me and you’re listening in your house, or you’re listening in your office, or perhaps you’re in the library with your headphones on. Wherever it may be, I want you to grab that piece of paper, and whether you set a timer or you just look at your watch really quick, we’re going to be at this for about ten minutes.

I want you to begin writing down your dreams and your goals. I want you to do it in these four areas of life:

  1. Personal development
  2. In your career, business, economic
  3. Toys and adventure part of life
  4. Your contribution – how you want to make a difference, how you want to contribute to other people

You’ll want to write any and everything you can think of, big and small, short-term, long-term. Just write it down. Write down who you want to be. Write down what you want to do, what you want to have. Perhaps you want to be your company’s number one salesperson, the head of your own nonprofit organization or a world traveler or a lion tamer. I always wanted to be a dolphin trainer. I thought that would be a whole lot of fun if I could just swim with the dolphins all day spent at the beach or sit down at Seaworld. That was something I always wanted to do.

Whatever it may be, this is your dream. You get to choose. Remember, the sky is the limit. No dream is out of reach. Perhaps you want to learn a foreign language, you want to visit every major league ballpark in the U.S. or climb Mount Kilimanjaro. It’s your dream and you get to choose what you want to do.

Perhaps you want a ten car garage filled with exotic sports cars. That’s okay. It’s your dream. Or you want a ranch in Colorado with horses and cows and pigs and sheep. Whatever it may be. Or you want the freedom to never have to work for somebody else again.

What’s important in this exercise is to keep writing for a full ten minutes. Do not let your pen leave the paper. Whatever comes to your mind, write it down. Maybe it’s something as simple as acquiring the newest pair of Nike basketball shoes or something as big as eradicating heart disease or starting the next Microsoft. This is your time to dream.

Do that now.

Step two: I want you to give each goal a deadline

A dream without a deadline is just a casual notion. It’s just fantasy. Not until you put a date to it does it actually become a goal.

Go to the list you created in step one and I want you to assign a simple deadline for each goal. If you’d like to achieve the goal in one year, just write the number “1” next to it. If you want to do it in three years, write the number “3” next to it. If you want to do it in five years, write the number “5.”

Say it’s something you might want to just do – “I want to climb Mount Kilimanjaro in the next decade.” Put a number “10” next to it.

Do that now.

Step three: I want you to narrow your focus

From your list, circle the three single-most important goals that if you were to accomplish them this year, you would consider this your greatest year ever. Look at all the goals that have a number one next to it. I want you to circle the top three that if you were to accomplish those this year, this would just be the most amazing year ever.

Using the power of questions will help you confirm your choosing your three most important goals. As you’re looking at those goals and you’re analyzing, “Is this the most important one? Is this the most important one?” ask yourself, “Why is this goal compelling to me? What will I gain by achieving it? What would I miss out on if I don’t achieve it? Who will I be able to help because of this goal’s achievement?” How will that make them feel if I achieve it? How will that make me feel?”

If your answers to these questions don’t stir up some burning emotions, go back to step one. Repeat the exercise until you can feel the burn. Do that now. Take your time with this part, because this is the part where you’re creating leverage on yourself. When you create leverage on yourself is when you actually take action, when you’ll actually do it.

Go ahead and do that now. I’ll wait. Take your time with this.

Step four: Live in the now

I want you to see your dreams and speak of them as if they have already happened, like you’re living them right now, you’re experiencing them right now. In the movie, “The Secret,” Bob Proctor discussed the importance of envisioning your goals as if they have already been accomplished. I’m not entirely certain as to why or how this phenomenon works, but I have noticed that it gives me a certain amount of power and definite of purpose around my dreams and goals.

So to increase your faith and confidence that your dreams and goals will be realized, I recommend you rewrite your top three goals. The ones that you’ve identified as your top three, rewrite them using the sentence structure that Bob Proctor shared in the movie.

Get three pieces of paper. I want you to use three pieces of paper – one for each goal. At the top, write your goals in this format:

“I’m so happy and grateful now that I am earning $10,000 a month in passive income.” That’s my goal. You insert your goals.

“I’m so happy and grateful now that I am my company’s number one salesperson.”

“I am so happy and grateful now that I am the leader of my own nonprofit organization.”

“I’m so happy and grateful now that I have made partner at the law firm.”

Go ahead and do that now for each one of your goals. And you can modify the sentence. It doesn’t have to be exact.

But what you’ll want to maintain are these two elements for this to be effective:

  1. I want you to write your goal in the present tense
  2. Be as specific as possible

Write it in present tense and be as specific as possible. Go ahead and do that now.

Step five: Begin with the destination in mind

In the pursuit of a goal, this is a vital step that is often underestimated or flat-out ignored. You must know where you are going in order to get there. If you do not, any road is going to get you there. So begin with the destination in mind.

You’ll already have your three goals written at the top of your three separate pieces of paper. At the bottom of each paper, just rewrite the goal again and give it an actual deadline. Just write “$10,000 of passive income July 1, 2012.” “I am chief of staff at the hospital December 31, 2013.” That’s your example.

Go ahead and do that now.

Steps one through five, you might have already heard that before. You might have actually read books where you saw that before or read that before. You might have actually been in seminars where you went through that exact same exercise. That’s okay. If it’s not broke, we’re not going to fix it.

But here’s a part I think will actually make a difference. I’ve heard this taught before also. I’m not the one who created this. This is a part that it’s not a universal concept in creating your goals.

It’s reverse engineering your goals and establishing milestones, and what I call now minorstones. I’ll explain a little bit what those are.

You see, rather than starting from your current place, where you are right now, and determining that path that you’re going to take to get to your destination, that path that you’re going to take to achieve your goal, what I want you to do is I want you to start at the end and reverse the path all the way back to where you are right now.

I want you to envision yourself, imagine that, envision that you are being who you want to be or doing what you want to do and you have everything that you’ve ever wanted to have – at least as it relates with the three goals that you’ve set out.

That’s all reality. That’s all right now.

Now we’re going to reverse engineer that. We’ll do this using what I call milestones. We’re going to create major milestones and minor milestones, establishing the major ones first.

So using my previous example of creating $10,000 a month in passive income through real estate investments – that’s my goal. Beginning there, I’m going to work my way back to where I am today.

A milestone that would have to be reached just prior to me experiencing $10,000 a month in passive income, a good milestone might be $8,000 a month in passive income. Just prior to that, a good milestone might be $6,000 a month in passive income.

Since my goal has an actual number attached to it, it makes it a little easier to work your major milestones backwards because you can just use the number that’s specific to your goal.

So just prior to that would be $4,000, then $2,000, then $1,000 a month in passive income. Those are my five major milestones.

It’s going to be different for you. Envision you experiencing that goal right now. What happened yesterday just before that dream, that goal, became a reality? That might be one of your major milestones.

Go ahead and write those five major milestones. Reverse engineer those five major milestones for each one of your goals right now. This is a really important part. Don’t pass this up. Don’t keep on listening. I want you to go do it right now.

Once you’ve established your major milestones, you’re going to want to remove your focus from the end goal. Now we’re not going to be focused on end goal. I want you to place your focus entirely on that first major milestone you’re going to hit.

You set up your five major milestones. I want you to place your focus only on that first major milestone that you’re going to hit between where you are right now and your goal.

You will now reverse engineer again from that one major milestones and create five minor milestones. There are illustrations in my book. I’m doing my best right now. Hopefully, you’re following with me. But there are illustrations in the book. That’s my shameless plug. Go buy the book if you haven’t got the book at DoOverBook.com. Just kidding (no I’m not). I’m trying to do my best. Hopefully, you’re following along with me.

You will now reverse engineer again from that major milestone and create five minor milestones. I call them minorstones. It just makes it a little easier. It’s less of a mouthful.

So what has to be accomplished just prior to achieving the $1,000 of passive income might be, for me, the closing of escrow. Just prior to that might be the opening of escrow. If you don’t know what escrow is, that’s just the period where you’re purchasing a piece of real estate where you do all your problem solving, you get all your paperwork together and you do your investigations.

So just prior to me achieving $1,000 a month in passive income might be the closing of escrow. Just prior to that might be the opening of escrow. Those are minorstones. Prior to that might be the submission of an offer to purchase a property.

Just prior to that might be the locating of a property that pays $1,000 a month in passive income. One more just before that might be the establishment of the markets in which I want to invest.

Those are my five minorstones. I want you to establish your five minorstones. Work your way back from that first major milestone you’re going to hit first. Focus on the major and work back five more minorstones. Don’t get lazy on me.

Go ahead and do that now.

Hopefully, you’ve done that for all three of your goals in the exact same manner. The road map to your dreams, it’s almost magically appearing. As you achieve each major milestone, you will then create five new minorstones in the same way you did the first five – by reverse engineering.

Lessons are undoubtedly going to be learned along the way. You’re going to be experiencing and discovering information you didn’t know that you didn’t know when your road map was first created. That’s okay.

It’s been said that the Apollo 11 mission on its way to the moon was off course 97% of the time. It was continually making minor adjustments placing it back on course.

You will likely experience a very similar statistic on your way to your goal, so don’t get frustrated when you do. Don’t get discouraged when you seemingly get knocked off course. Just adjust. If this strategy put a man on the moon, it will work for your goals, too. I promise you that.

So go ahead and do that now if you did not create it for all three of your goals.

Step seven: Small daily tasks

I’m a big believer in setting small, easy tasks. I believe in small, easy tasks because they generate multiple experiences of easy success and it keeps you on what is known as the Success Cycle.

There’s nothing more motivating on the path to achievement of your most important goals than knowing you are progressively moving closer and closer to them every single day. In a nutshell, success breeds success. It keeps you going. That’s where we came up with the Success Cycle.

When a mentor of mine introduced me to the Success Cycle, he said, “Either you’re on it or you’re not.” You are on the Success Cycle or you are not. There is no standing still. There is no in between.

What the Success Cycle is – it starts with confidence. Confidence creates activity. Activity produces results. Results produce success. Success produces more confidence. And you go back around to confidence produces activity, activity produces results, results produce success, and success produces more confidence and around and around the cycle goes.

Either you are on it going towards the activity, results, success, and confidence or you’re going the other way and your confidence is getting crushed. You’re not producing the results, you’re getting lazy and you’re not doing the activities that are necessary.

That’s why I like small, easy daily tasks that can produce small, little amounts of success. It keeps you on the Success Cycle.

So you’re going to create these small and easy daily tasks via a daily to-do list. Nothing groundbreaking. No silver bullet. In fact, that is the silver bullet, a daily to-do list.

As we were focused on the first major milestone to create our five minorstones, we will now place 100% of our focus solely on the first minorstone to create our daily to-do list.

So to stay consistent with our previous example, that minorstone, for me, was the establishment of the markets in which I want to invest. I just have to establish where I’m going to put my money. Small and easy daily activities focused on this minorstone might consist of (1) Conduct a Google search for top ten cash flowing real estate markets (2) Call my mentor to get his opinion (3) Make a list of three investors with cash flowing real estate and call them for their opinions (4) Conduct preliminary searches based off the opinions I collected to confirm if it’s the right market for me.

You can see how these four basic activities for the day are very small and very easy. The achievement of the first minorstone could very well be achieved on the very first day on the road to my goals.

How would that make you feel to knock down the first minorstone on the first or second day? Would you not be inspired to tackle the next minorstone ASAP?

To achieve anything you set your mind on, you will create one small and easy success at a time using laser-focus until the ultimate goal is achieved. This is how it is done. There’s no mystery; there’s no magic.

I found the use of these following questions I’m going to share with you. I’ll put these in the show notes as well. It has accelerated my success. It’s made my daily to-do list much more effective. Feel free to use these.

So as you create your daily to-do list, after that’s complete, go ahead and ask these questions about that to-do list.

  1. What about my to-do list excites me today? Why does it excite me?
  2. How will it make me feel once I’ve crossed it off the list?
  3. What is one risk I can take today that will move me even closer to my goal?
  4. If I could add one thing to my list that would make a tremendous difference in achieving my goals, what would it be?
  5. What skills do I wish to develop to enhance my business?
  6. To what activities do I devote too much time which I could eliminate or dramatically reduce?
  7. What is the most valuable use of my time and how could I spend more time doing that?
  8. How can I borrow more time from areas that do not serve me?

Going through those eight questions every day after you’ve made your to-do list, sometimes I end up with an entirely different to-do list – a much bigger, more empowering one. One that produces greater results.

So don’t sell yourself short. Make sure you’re pushing yourself a little bit, and analyze your daily to-do list with those eight questions.

By incorporating step seven, staying focused on these small, easy daily activities and checking in with your minorstones every other week or so, success is going to be yours. It’s going to be getting closer to you. You are going to be getting closer to it. It is the small and easy – sometimes even mundane – activities compounded over time that produce success.

It can’t be any other way. There’s no such thing as get-rich-quick or overnight success. Sometimes it may appear that way. But just a little bit of research, you’re going to discover every get-rich-quick person or every overnight success person, it was far from being overnight. There are years and years of preparation to set themselves up to succeed overnight.

Patience and persistence are what does it, and they win every time. Now you’ve got a plan. Go after it. You’ve planned the work; now you’ve got to work the plan. That’s what we’re going to discuss in great detail next time.

If you like what you heard today and/or if there’s something you would like to hear more of, please visit iTunes at your convenience and leave your comments and suggestions. You guys have done a great job in supporting me in this rediscovery of my Do Over podcast. Now we’ve got two of them on iTunes right now and I know it’s just a matter of time before one disappears. But thank you so much for your support.

Thank you for recreating your comments. It appears I have all of my subscribers back. I have all of my comments back, and I’ve got even more now. I’ve got my biggest day ever today and I owe it all to you. I’m so grateful. Thank you so much.

I am Matt, the Do Over Guy, and I will see you next time on Your Do Over.

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