7 Ways to Create Enthusiasm When You Don’t Feel Enthusiastic | DO 18

If knowledge is power then enthusiasm is the switch. Enthusiasm isn’t just more fun, it’s more attractive and produces better results. The Do Over Guy reveals 7 ways to create enthusiasm even when you don’t feel like being enthusiastic. In closing, this life-changing episode is wrapped up as Matt shares what everyone ought to know about themselves, but tragically most will never learn.

Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasmIf knowledge is power, then enthusiasm is the switch. Enthusiasm isn’t just more fun, it’s more attractive and produces better results. The Do Over Guy reveals 7 ways to create enthusiasm even when you don’t feel like being enthusiastic. In closing, this life-changing episode is wrapped up as Matt shares what everyone ought to know about themselves, but tragically most will never learn.

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Matt: Hey, this is Matt, “The Do Over Guy,” and this is Your Do Over: Episode 18.

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Matt: Welcome to Your Do Over, coming to you live from downtown Los Angeles in my downtown loft, right across the street from the Staples Center on another rainy day in Southern California. I’m staring out the window right now watching people pile into the Staples Center for the Lakers game. I’m so glad I’m inside. It looks very cold out there. But then I guess things are all relative, because 50 degrees here is considered cold.

This is the place where, once a week, you will hear, learn, and take action on the ignored, underestimated and unknown steps to producing results.

This is the show where I show people dissatisfied with their current situation how to start over and begin a new life setting goals and objectives so they can create wealth and live life to the fullest easier, faster, smarter.

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I wanted to start the show today with just thanking people for their iTunes reviews. Thank you, Derrick. As Derrick wrote, “This is a great podcast and I look forward to listening more!!!” He gave me triple exclamation points at the end of there. Thank you, Derrick.

And CV Investor. He said, “Thanks again. Enjoy your podcast while driving to work every day over and over. Live with passion.” You’re welcome. Thank you, CV Investor.

alohops – “This is the only podcast I do not delete from my iPod. Each week, there is more no-nonsense practical perspectives and homework to help those of us who want to start over or just improve the path we’re on. Unlike other hosts, Matt is to the point and pragmatic.”

Thank you for those nice words. Thank you very much.

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Downloads are actually going through the roof. I don’t know what I said or what I did, but I sure wish I knew. The podcasts downloads have increased by 600% in the last two weeks. Really, just two weeks ago I was receiving about 100 downloads a day, and this past week I’m averaging over 600 downloads per day. That’s such a huge difference. I wish I knew what happened or how it happened. I would like to do more of it.

Regardless, I’m so grateful for the support. I’m so grateful, in fact, if you haven’t downloaded your copy of the Three Pillars of Creating the Ultimate Do Over, now would probably be a very good time to do it as I’ve just posted a special promotion for my book. I’m not promoting this anywhere else. This is for my podcast listeners only. The only way you’re even going to know about this is if you are listening to this podcast.

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Again, I’m not making this offer anywhere else. You’ll only hear about it here on this podcast. This is only for you. If you’re one of the hundreds that have already downloaded the Three Pillars of Creating the Ultimate Do Over, don’t go download it again. Just sent me an email to [email protected] with Podcast Promo in the subject line. Then I’ll just go ahead and I’ll reply with a link to this offer. That’s the password: Podcast Promo.

I’m just so grateful for our support. Thank you, thank you, thank you. This increased downloading, it’s maxing out my bandwidth, which is a good problem to have I suppose.

What it means is I’m probably going to have to switch my podcast hosting. Not a problem, really. But why I’m telling you is I want to extend a warning because rarely do these types of switches or transfers go off without a hitch – particularly when I’m involved. I’m not the most technically inclined when it comes to these things, but I will do my best.

But based on my experience, what I see potentially happening is one of three scenarios. One: we could lose contact all together, which you might have to search me out again. God forbid. I hope that does not happen. Two: your system could possibly download all of my episodes again, which will result in duplicate files on your computer. I hope that doesn’t happen also.

Or three: nothing will happen. You’ll never even notice. Either way, I’m going to give you plenty of warning. No need to brace yourself at the moment.

What I’m going to do is place my attention on this going smoothly and I’m going to place my thoughts on this going off without a hitch without you ever even noticing.

I’m really tired about talking about these technical issues on my podcast. Actually, I’m probably sure you’re tired of hearing about them, too. But there’s a lesson here. There’s a lesson to get from this for your Do Over. There has to be, right? There always is.

What can we learn from my technical podcast challenges? First, I launched this podcast from the ready, fire, aim approach. Ready, fire, aim meaning I sought a little bit of information about podcasting and I just got started.

In my previous endeavors, I always found myself constantly stopped by analysis paralysis. I was consummate “get ready to get ready” guy. I always had to make sure I got my business cards in check. I had to have the fax machine set up just right. I had to have my desk just so. I had to have just the right outfit, or the right clothes, or the right equipment. I was just always getting ready to get ready and I never really got out of the starting gates in so many things that I attempted to do. This time: ready, fire, aim. I’m just adjusting as I go.

Second, by just getting started, the world begins to transpire in your favor. The world loves action. People and things are attracted to action. They’re attracted to movement.

Imagine if I had waited to get everything all lined up for this podcast before I ever began. Who knows if I would have even launched the podcast by now. Knowing myself from the past, likely not. I’d still be talking about it, reading up on it, asking people about it, blah, blah, blah.

Here’s something I’ve learned in my Do Over; a mistake that I’ve learned in my previous endeavor. Imagine you’re getting up in the morning and you’re getting ready to go to work. You get in the car, and you sit in the driveway, and you decide you’re not going to leave the driveway until all of the lights turn green, meaning every single light between your home and work has to turn green before you get out of the driveway. You would never get to work, right?

That’s the way a lot of people lead their lives. They wait for all of those lights to turn green before they ever take any action. I learned is, I learn a little something, and I just do it. I move at the speed of instruction. I travel as far as I can see, and when I get there, I’ll see further.

Of course sometimes you have to alter your approach as you go along, but it’s so much better and it’s so much more effective than paralysis analysis. What you’ll find just by movement, serendipitous things will start to happen. You’ll learn things. You’ll meet people that all aid and assist and contribute to whatever you’re up to.

Third, I’m always monitoring my focus. It’s so easy to get caught up in what’s happening. This can literally be a death sentence. It can just spiral down. You can really work yourself up in a frenzy worrying about whatever challenges or adversity that you’re faced with, and it can be paralyzing.

At the very least, it can rob you of miracles and rob you of favors. It can rob you of favorable happenstance. It robs you, and it serves no purpose. Worrying accomplishes nothing.

I heard one guy who said, “Worrying works, because whatever I worry about doesn’t happen.” That’s one way to look at it, right?

Anytime I get frustrated, upset, worries, I stop myself and I place my focus off of what’s happening and onto what I want to have happen and that takes some practice, because sometimes frustration will set in and it’s completely distracting, and the last thing you’re thinking about is, “Okay, I need to focus on what’s happening.” It takes practice.

It gets easier, though, with practice. I’m getting quicker and quicker with it and it’s serving me really, really well.

What I’m focusing on right now is I want a podcast solution that completely removed the podcast technical concerns from my thoughts. So rather than stress out about my bandwidth or stress out about what’s going to happen to my subscribers or stress out about the ramifications or inconveniences that my hosting transfer may have on you, I’m placing my focus on finding a hosting service that will eliminate the above from my concerns.

Let’s look at this and what you can learn for your Do Over as you start over. You have some options.

  1. You can continue to do what you’ve always done. If you’re dissatisfied with where you are right now, look at what you’ve done to get there. Are you still doing it? You can continue to do what you’ve done trying for a different result. I believe it was Albert Einstein who called that the definition of insanity. If you always do what you’ve always done, you’re always going to get what you’ve always got.
  2. You can learn from your past mistakes and alter your approach. That’s certainly one way of doing it, and it’s much wiser than our previous option. That’s a good one.

Here’s one even better:

  1. You can learn from other’s mistakes. You can witness what’s going on around you. You can witness the people that have been there before you. What did they do? What worked for them? What didn’t work? What was missing from their endeavor that presence of which would have made a difference? That’s the smart way.

You can collapse timeframes if you notice what’s going on around you and what’s working and what’s not. They say hindsight is 20/20. Absolutely. You can look back at your past mistakes and you know what not to do again.

But this show is also about learning from other people’s mistakes and making their hindsight your foresight so you don’t have to go through what they went through.

So, sure, I’ve made some mistakes with this podcast along the way. But what’s good about this is, one, I’ve traveled. And two, I’ve grown. As long as you’re traveling and growing, you are succeeding. Success is not a destination. There’s nowhere to get. It is a journey.

And it’s not the end result that’s going to give you satisfaction. That’s not what you’re going to achieve that’s going to give you that satisfaction. It’s who you become along the way.

That’s what I mean when I saw as long as you’re traveling or as long as you’re in motion and taking action, as long as you’re growing you’re succeeding. Does that make sense?

Let’s take what I’ve learned from this podcast and plus the lessons into your Do Over. I have some questions for you.

  1. Where are you stuck?
  2. Where in life are you getting ready to get ready?
  3. What is that one thing you’ve been meaning to do, but you’re waiting for a little bit more information? You’re waiting for another piece of the puzzle? Just get started. Ready, fire, then aim. You’ll go as far as you can see, and when you get there, you’re going to see further. You’re going to see further than where you can from where you are right now.
  4. Where are you robbing yourself of favor and blessings by not getting started? What is it costing you by not getting started? How is it affecting you? What are you missing out on? What are your loved ones missing out on? What are the people that care about you missing out on? What is it costing them?
  5. Where are you focusing on your dilemmas, challenges, and worries? How can you place your focus on the solutions? How can you place your focus on what you want to have happen? When would be the best time to do that? When would now be a good time to get started?

Your mind is a very powerful, powerful force. That power will work for you as easy as it will work against you, so watch your thoughts and watch your focus. You will undoubtedly get what you focus on, so be careful what you’re focused on. This is how powerful your thoughts are.

If you think you’re beaten, you are. If you think you shouldn’t try, then you won’t. if you think you dare not, you don’t.

If you like to win, but you don’t think you can, it’s almost certain that you’re not going to win. It’s all related to your thoughts. If you think you’re going to lose, you already lost.

What we find is success begins with your will; it begins with your desire. It’s all really in the state of mind. So if you think you’re outclassed, you are.

So you’ve got to think big. You’ve got to think big if you want to advance, and you’ve got to be sure of yourself. You’re not going to win unless you do. Life battles, they don’t always go in favor of the stronger man or the faster man. Very often they go in favor of the man who thinks he can. Monitor your thoughts.

The other thing about the thoughts while we use a lot of questions here – you’ve heard “If you think you can or if you think you can’t, you’re right.” The reason that’s an accurate statement – it’s not just a cliché, it’s not just a famous quote. It’s actually very accurate as far as how the brain works.

If I say I can’t, that’s a statement. The conversation is over. It’s done. That’s what’s so. If you say, “I think I can,” it’s the same thing. It’s a statement. The conversation is over. That’s what’s so.

This is why I use questions so much. That’s why questions are so important. It’s not a dead end. As an alternative saying, “I think I can or I think I can’t, a more empowering thought is: how can I?” So monitor your thoughts and use questions. Ask empowering questions.

No longer “I can do this.” No longer “I can’t do this.” A more empowering way to live is “How can I?” Then add my favorite phrase at the end “How can I, and enjoy the process? How can I, and have fun?”

Your brain is going to answer that question for you and you’re going to get a very different result than “I can” or “I can’t.” Maybe you can, but it might be a struggle. Maybe you can and you might not enjoy it.

But if you ask yourself the question, “How can I and enjoy the process?” “How can I and enjoy the process and help others along the way?” Getting very detailed with those questions. When you get very detailed with those questions, you get very detailed results.

Now that your focus is in the right place, what must follow? A decision, right? A decision to take action. Then what follows is the action itself.

Now how to supercharge that action. You’ve heard that knowledge is power. If knowledge is power, then enthusiasm is the switch. That’s what turns it on. So how are you enthusiasm levels? Enthusiasm is really powerful. Why is it powerful?

First, enthusiasm just makes it a lot more fun. Whatever you’re up to, if you’re enthusiastic about it, it’s more fun. If you’re unenthusiastic, or bored, or apathetic, who wants to deal with that? It makes life slow and dreary. Enthusiasm, on the other hand, it’s like an inner light, an inner energy and it really makes life easier. It makes everything more enjoyable.

Second, enthusiasm is attractive to people. It attracts people. Enthusiasm is probably one of the most attractive qualities any person can have. It’s a quality that makes you attractive in all types of relationships, whether that’s professional, whether it’s personal, and it’s a great quality to find in other people. It tends to make all of your relationships and all of your interactions more fun.

And when things are more fun, that’s when you want to do things. That’s when you’re better at things. That’s when you get better results and you can fulfill more of the potential of any situation or experience when enthusiasm is involved.

Third, it lends itself to powerful communication. When you’re enthusiastic, your body language is different. Your voice tonality is different, and it generates different results – typically, more favorable results.

So if you’re enthusiastic, it not only makes you more attractive, it also makes your words and your message that much stronger. It enhances your body language and it enhances your voice tonality.

Right there, those two parts, that makes up over 90% of your communication. So enthusiasm lends itself to powerful communication.

And fourth, enthusiasm gets things done. Enthusiasm is the switch. And when enthusiasm at the core, when enthusiasm is at the foundation, not only does it get things done, it gets things done better – and typically easier.

If you’re doing something out of dread, or you’re doing something out of reluctance, do we do our best under that state? No. We do our best when we’re enthusiastic about it. Right there, that’s reason enough to be more enthusiastic.

Easier said than done? How can you be more enthusiastic, especially when you don’t feel like it? That can be a challenge when you’ve got to conjure up this emotion of enthusiasm.

“Alright, Matt. I get it. Enthusiasm gets things done. It’s more fun. It makes me a better communicator and it’s more attractive to people. I understand. But how do you do it when you don’t feel like it?”

Well, I’ve got a few tips for you. I’m going to give you seven tips that will literally cause enthusiasm in an instant. This is probably a good time to remind you that the more you practice being enthusiastic, the easier it is going to become.

  1. Pursue your passion. Do what you really like to do. This is the most important tip as far as I can see. It can generate enormous and sustained amounts of enthusiasm without you having to do much about it at all. You don’t have to think about it. Enthusiasm is just going to flow naturally. If you’re doing what you like to do, it’s going to come naturally; you’re not even going to have to think about it. So identify what you really want to do and go pursue that. Or identify the things inside of your job or your career or at home life that you really enjoy doing and do those. Identify what you do your best, and then delegate the rest.
  2. Never stop learning. Over the years, I’ve come to discover how enthusiasm can work. If you’re not enthusiastic, it’s often because you just don’t know enough about what you’re up to. You don’t know enough about the people you’re interacting with. You don’t know enough about the topic you’re discussing or you don’t know enough about your job or your career. So if you dig in and you start to learn about what you’re up to and you learn about the aspects and the dynamics of what you’re up to, you’re often going to find really fascinating stuff that’s going to spark enthusiasm. So just get started; get going. A lot of the time, enthusiasm is going to find you along the way, but never stop learning. Don’t become a reluctant learner. We’ve talked about that before and we know where that leads.
  3. Look for the positive in any given situation. You’ve heard that before. I know it’s general. It’s been overused. It’s become a cliché. Just because you’ve heard something a lot doesn’t mean it’s not effective. So look for the positive in any given situation, then build on that to get your enthusiasm going. Perhaps it’s just a small, little thing. Maybe two things. But a little glimmer of positivity, a little shining light of positivity can be a starting point to change your entire perspective to a more positive one where you can find enthusiasm or enthusiasm finds you, and whatever the situation you’re in, it’s often going to be easier and more pleasurable to handle. Enthusiasm just makes things more fun, and it makes things more productive and you become more effective.
  4. Listen to personal development material. Listen to these podcasts. These are great for enthusiasm. I’m a subscriber to several podcasts and every morning when I’m working out, I’m listening to something. I’m listening to somebody. When I’m done with my workout, I can’t wait to get upstairs and take on and implement what I just heard on a podcast. And whether that’s personal development or something with my career, or whether it’s a new workout or a new exercise to try or a new recipe to try, here’s where you can experience just how powerful enthusiasm is when we communicate with each other. Listen to audio programs with enthusiastic people. Tony Robbins gets me riled up. Tony Robbins gets me going for just 15-30 minutes. When I’m done with that, I’m much more enthusiastic. So listen to personal development material. I probably don’t have to tell you that, because you’re listening to it already. But you can use it as a tool. You know it makes you feel better. You know it creates enthusiasm.
  5. Act. Pretend. Very much what happens to us will create our emotions, and our emotions will create our posture. It affect our physiology. But it goes the other way as well. We can manipulate our own physiology to impact our emotions, to impact our enthusiasm. Motions will create your motions, but very much so your emotions can create your emotions as well. So move and talk like you would if you were enthusiastic. Take the actions that you would take if you were being enthusiastic, and soon, you’re going to find yourself being enthusiastic. I know something I do when I’m feeling a little down or a little upset or when I’m on it, I’ll make sure nobody is watching, but I’ll go and skip somewhere; I’ll skip up and down the hall. It’s really tough. Try that. It’s really tough to stay upset, or frustrated, or angry when you’re skipping. It feels really silly, and that’s an example of how motion creates your emotions.
  6. Exercise and get plenty of sleep. Be healthy. It takes energy to be enthusiastic. If you feel good about yourself in your health and your appearance, it’s going to be a lot easier to be enthusiastic. So get enough sleep, eat well, and get your exercise in. Drink plenty of water.
  7. Create an enthusiastic environment. This is one of my favorites. Create an environment of enthusiastic people. Negative voices from people around you can crush your enthusiasm. Letting the news play in the background can crush your enthusiasm. Replace that type of intake with more enthusiastic and positive sources. Don’t let your enthusiasm drown in a sea of negative chatter. Hang out with enthusiastic people. Create a network of enthusiastic people. The people that are down and depressed, they can be toxic. It can be toxic to your wellbeing. You see, enthusiasm is contagious, so use that to help yourself.

Why have I been talking about enthusiasm? Because when I started this podcast today, I wasn’t sure exactly where I was going to end up. Or when I started thinking about this podcast, I wasn’t sure exactly what I was going to talk about.

But I taught you about enthusiasm. They say to teach is to learn twice. What I mean by that is this morning in one of my two mastermind groups that I attend – I meet with two separate mastermind groups; one four times a month, the other two times a month.

We get together and we mastermind. That might be a subject for another podcast, but let me talk specifically about what happened today.

We discussed one of the most powerful places for a human being to stand, is to take responsibility for all of their own experiences, to take responsibility for their own results, to take responsibility for their own actions.

It’s very disempowering to live in the world as a victim or to live in the world making excuses or to live in a world giving reasons. Call it living an unreasonable life. Yoda says either you do or you do not; there’s no such thing as try, that’s being unreasonable, that’s no excuses. That’s being responsible for what you get, being responsible for your experiences, being responsible for excuses.

Inside of the realm of being responsible for your experiences, it’s being responsible for how people receive you, how people respond to you, how people react to you.

So if you’re in the world of sales and your last sales call they didn’t buy anything, and you might have walked out the door or hung up the phone thinking the guy was crazy; he doesn’t know what he’s doing, he doesn’t know what he’s talking about, he doesn’t know how to run his business, doesn’t he know he needs my product? That’s living as a victim. That’s making excuses. That’s reasons.

But what if you were to switch that and look at: how did I cause him not to buy? How can I be responsible for him not giving me an order? That’s a very different place to stand in the world.

Inside my mastermind group, we went around the table and asked each other three specific questions. Each person asked the other person, “What about me works for you?” The response would be what works. What do they like about you?

The second question was, “What about me doesn’t work for you?” The part about you that they don’t like, the part that they don’t really care for.

The third is, “What’s missing that the presence of which would make a difference?”

We asked these three questions individually around the circle. Part of the rules is you’re not allowed to be defensive. You’re not allowed to get upset; you’re just supposed to receive the constructive criticism and take responsibility of how you occur for other people.

One of the things that was shared with me by more than one of the people within my mastermind, when asked what about me works for them, they said really nice things – of course they’re going to say nice things, because that’s what works for them.

But you have to sit there and listen to what doesn’t work for them. Then you have to listen to what’s missing at the presence of which would make a difference. This is their words of encouragement or their suggestion.

Guess what one of the suggestions was? I need to be more enthusiastic. That’s missing in my life. Can you imagine that? Me not enthusiastic? I might disagree a little bit, but that’s not the exercise. It doesn’t matter what I think; it’s how I occur for other people.

I haven’t given homework out in quite a while. I want you to try this. I want you to go home to your spouse or the person in your life that’s closest to you and I want you to have a conversation with them. I want you to put it in a space where you create a very, very safe environment. Let them know that you’re going to ask them three questions, and you’re requesting that they answer honestly, completely unfiltered.

Let them know, “No matter what you say, I am not going to get upset. I’m not going to hold it against you; I want your honest answer.” And then ask them. Can you speak to me without filters? Can you speak to me honestly and openly and give it to me straight? You have to get their agreement before you ask the questions.

You’re going to ask that person – and at least one person. If you want something really powerful and something really life-changing, something absolutely transforming, ask as many people as you possibly can – people that know you, trust you; specifically, the people that love you. You’re going to learn more about yourself with these three questions than you could ever learn anywhere else.

First question, you’re going to ask your spouse. You’re going to ask that person that you interact with all the time. Maybe it’s your coworker, maybe it’s your boss. It’s a very enlightening experience if you ask your boss. It’s a very enlightening experience if you ask your secretary, you ask your assistant.

The first question you’re going to ask is: what about me works for you? They’re going to say nice things. This morning I heard I was a great leader. This morning I heard that I was really good at leading by experience, that I was really good at practicing what I preach, that I was a really good friend, that I was honest, that I operated with integrity in everything I do. Those were things that worked for the people I interact with. That’s what they like about me.

Question number two: what about me doesn’t work? Remember you just gave them entire freedom to speak clearly and direct. You absolutely cannot get upset or be defensive. You just have to receive and be with it. You have to take responsibility for how you occur to other people. Regardless of what they say, regardless of what you hear, just receive it and be with it. You’re going to learn more about yourself with that question. After you’ve set this nice, safe environment and they’re speaking directly with you, you’re going to learn more from that question than you’ll probably learn doing anything else.

This morning I heard about myself. I heard I often get resigned. I have an air of cynicism that doesn’t work for them. Me? Cynical? Are you crazy? That’s what I’m saying inside, but of course, I couldn’t say anything. I had to bite my tongue. I had to leave the space nice and safe or else they’re not going to tell me what they really think; I’m not going to get the real answers.

And I heard inconsistent intentionality. Wow. Isn’t that amazing? The last episode’s podcast was all about being intentional. I guess it’s true – we teach what we need to learn the most. Very transformational experience.

Question number three: what’s missing that the presence of which would make a difference? That’s when I heard this morning enthusiasm. So I decided to teach enthusiasm, because when you teach, you learn it twice. Teach it again, and you learn it again. And you teach it over and over and over. That’s when it becomes a part of you. Then all of a sudden, it disappears.

That’s your homework. Those are your three questions.

  1. What about me works for you?
  2. What about me doesn’t work?
  3. What’s missing that the presence of which would make a difference?

I would love for you to email me what you learned about yourself and what a difference this made in your life. But you’ve got to follow the rules or else it’s not going to work. It could backfire. Create a nice, safe environment and just take whatever you get. And be responsible for it.

“Wow, this person thinks I’m a jerk. Got it.” You’ve got to be responsible for that. It doesn’t mean you’re a jerk. That’s just how you occur for that person. Neither one is right or wrong. There’s no good or bad here. It’s just their perception. I’m sure there are people in your life that don’t think you’re a jerk at all. But be responsible for that, and you’re going to learn a whole lot about yourself. This is probably one of the most powerful lessons or the most powerful homework assignments I can give you.

And you should do it every three months or so. The way that you’re occurring, is it changing? Is it improving? Is it digressing? Is it transformed into something else? That’s my gift to you, and it will be an amazing gift.

And don’t just listen to me. Just don’t acknowledge me. Just don’t say, “Yeah, that’s cool. I can see how that would work.” Go do it. This is not your Learn Over. It’s your Do Over.

That’s all I’ve got for you today. Don’t forget if you haven’t already, go to FreeDoOver.com and take advantage of my special Do Over offer: two for one on the Do Over book. Get both the e-version of my book, plus the audio for the price of one.

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