How to Stay Motivated, Part I | DO 31

When “doing over,” motivation is typically strong in the beginning and can easily wane with time. Knowing how to stay motivated can be the difference between “doing over” and “doing over again.” On this episode, Matt shares two of his favorite and most effective practices that help him stay motivated.

How to Stay MotivatedWhen “doing over,” motivation is typically strong in the beginning and can easily wane with time. Knowing how to stay motivated can be the difference between “doing over” and “doing over again.” On this episode, Matt shares two of his favorite and most effective practices that help him stay motivated.

 

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Matt:  Hey, this is Matt, “The Do Over Guy,” and this is Your Do Over: Episode 31.

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Matt:  Welcome to Your Do Over, coming to you live from downtown Los Angeles. This is the place where I show people who want more out of life, people dissatisfied with their current situation, how to start over and begin a new life, setting goals and objectives so they can create wealth and live life to the fullest.

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Now, this past week, I sent out a survey to my email list asking a specific question.  What are the three biggest challenges you are currently facing in your Do Over?  And the answers I received were surprising but then they weren’t.  Initially, there were somewhat surprising because I have covered about every topic of what’s ailing those of you that responded.  Your answers lie literally within Episodes 1 to 30.  But then I got to thinking and actually then I wasn’t surprised because as I frequently have experiences where I hear something.

I mean I might read it.  I might hear it from an associate or at a seminar.  I might see it on TV or I hear from a friend or from a family member.  I mean something that’s good for me is what I mean, something that would actually make a difference if I were just to listen.  If I had learned and I will apply it like if I would just do it.  But so often, I mean, there apparently goes over my head.  I mean essentially in one year out the other.  And typically it’s only a hindsight that allows me to see this but then I hear it from a different source or in a different way, or maybe just at a different time where it actually click so I get it.

I see that very clearly for the outside looking in the survey, as most of the responses were very detailed and they were involved so there’s a very exciting opportunity right now for me, in which I get to dig deeper within myself.  I get to reach out to other people within my network.  I get to consume additional material and learn new things but most of all what I’m excited about is that I get to customized the show.

I get to customized so to speak and focus on exactly what you want to hear as opposed to what I thought you wanted to hear or I thought you needed to hear.  So I’m very excited about the next few months and after I’ll go ahead and check back in with you again.  And see where we stand.  Having said that, feel fee to contact and interact with me in the meantime like many of you are already been doing.  You can do this by simply sending me an email to [email protected].  I believe I’ve completely caught up by the way like I had responded to every email I’ve received.  If I missed yours by chance just send it again.  If I didn’t respond, it was only because I didn’t see it.

So in this survey “Inquiring About Your 3 Biggest Challenges,” I mean there was 5 major areas that really stood out.  The five major areas that are vey common among the 100+ people that responded.  And they stood out in a big way.  Money that was a big one or the lack thereof I should say.  You know, whether money to pay the bills or the extra money needed to pursue your passion or the actual capital investments to fund your projects.  I’m glad I did this survey because I was thinking that I covered a little bit too frequently on this show because money is important to me.  But I understand that it is not as important to other people as it is to me.  I am well aware money is not everything but it certainly makes everything a whole lot more easy and a whole lot more enjoyable.

So money was a big one for you.  Spousal and family support that was a biggie.  Support for you to pursue your passion.  That was just another big area of concern for many of you.  Whether it was form your spouse or your family or your friends or your immediate network.  So we will talk about that as well.

Time management was a significant challenge in many of your Do Over along with procrastination that came up quite a bit.  Also, not knowing what to do in your Do Over or what to do next inside of your Do Over.  Paralysis by analysis that was interesting. There were 17 people of which responded to the survey, almost 20% that actually used that term, paralysis by analysis.  We’re going to cover all of those over the next few months.

Personally, I’ll touch on each subject but I’m going to bring in people from my network to touch on those as well.  As I’m aware that in fact I’m very aware that I don’t know everything.  There’s a whole lot that I don’t know but I know people that know a lot more than me.  I know people that have specialize knowledge in certain areas where I might be just a generalist.  So I know some great money minds that I’ll invite to the show and they’ll share with you.

I know a fantastic time management procrastination of which I’ll invite to the show.  Those are just a couple that I can think off the top of my head but I’m going to dig deep in my network.  I’m going to pull together my resources. I’m going this next few months really, really, really amazing.  Among the other topics that ails you: consistency, relationships, weight loss, finding a job, overwhelm, finding your life purpose, clearing clutter, that showed up quite a few times both figuratively and literally, in finding clients and networking and establishing a plan of action.

Maintaining one’s energy, that was a biggie for some of you and fear.  That showed up in many different forms, and faith and self-confidence.  We’re going to cover all of it over the next few months.  We’re going to cover all from many different angles and perspectives.

But hands down, the biggest challenge you are facing in your Do Over according to this survey.  The biggest challenge you are facing is staying motivated and staying focused.  You’re being distracted by negative thoughts and pessimism, and staying enthusiastic on what you’re up to in life.

You see, losing your motivation or losing your focus or losing your enthusiasm or struggling with negative thoughts.  They are all symptoms of where you are currently standing in life. Typically, you’re standing in a space between belief and disbelief or trust and distrust, or certainty or uncertainty.  Whatever word for it, that word is doubt.

Doubt brings in the questions, some notions of a perceived reality.  Doubt may involve delaying or rejecting relevant action out of concerns for mistakes or falls or appropriateness.  If you are finding yourself short on motivation or enthusiasm and you’re lacking the ability to focus, you’re likely doubting what you’re up to in life.  It means are you doing the right thing?  Or are you doing what you really want to do?

Or you doubt how you are going about it; meaning is this really going to work?  Because you might have been pursuing something for a while, taking a consistent action, and you’re not getting the results that you really were hoping for.  So there is doubt on how you’re about it.

You know, there’s an old fable that someone shared with me recently.  They said it was old but it was new to me but I liked it so much that I probably shared with others at least a dozen times in the last couple of weeks.  Perhaps, you’re familiar with it or perhaps you’ve been out of the loop just like me and it will brand new to you.

But it’s so applicable to our discussion today.  You see, it was once announced that the devil was going out of business.  It was having a going out of business sale.  He was making his tools available to whoever pays his price.  Now, on the night of the sale, he laid out all of his tools.  They were all attractively displayed.  A mean and menacing group of tools they were.  They was the tool of malice, the tool of hatred, the tool of envy, and jealousy, and sensuality, and the tool of deceit, and all the other implements of evil were spread out as well.  Each marked with its price.  Now, apart from the rest of the tools lay a harmless looking wedge-shaped tool.  It was obviously an older tool or maybe just a more frequently used tool.  It was hard to tell.  It wasn’t nearly as impressive as the others, at least by the look of it.  But it was priced much higher than the others and someone asked the devil what it was.  That’s the tool of doubt was his reply.  Why do you have it priced so high?  Because, reply the devil, it is more useful to me than any of the others.  I can pry open and get inside a man’s consciousness with that when I couldn’t get near him with any of the others.  And when once inside, I can use him in whatever ways suits me best.

It is so much warned because I use it with nearly everybody.  As very few people even know it belongs to me.  That was the devil’s response.  Needless to say, the devil’s sale was not a success.  He did not go out of business after all.  The price for his tools especially doubt were so high that they were never sold.  He still owns them all including his favorite, the tool of doubt.  He is using them today.

Now them oral of this fable is that you should never underestimate or undervalue the powerful influence of doubt in keeping you from doing over and in keeping you from doing over and in keeping you from living up to your potential.  Doubt is a Do Over killer.  Doubt is a dream stealer.  I mean most people are already and somewhat shaken up state when they’re starting over.  I mean they’re fragile so to speak mostly.  And that particular state can have you operating with a weakened immune system, figuratively speaking of course.  Nobody is immune to doubt but we find ourselves inordinately susceptible when we’re starting over.  Just know that in order for your Do Over to succeed, let alone just survive, know that it will have to survive doubt.

You see doubt starts out small.  It appears rational and that is actually the insidious nature of doubt.  It appears to be your friend having your best interests at heart.  It appears that it’s looking out for you.  It uses fear to keep you out of harm’s way.  It appears that it’s doing good.  It’s keeping safe from failure, keeping safe from change.

It wants to keep you in the safe zone at all times.  Doubt also causes you to think short of your abilities and to think short of your possibilities, to think short of what’s possible for you.

It wants to convince of why you either cannot do something or cannot achieve something.  Your doubt will make a case of your past and present failures as the basis for why you cannot change or should not change.

Doubt is sneaky.  It’s nasty.  It’s ugly.  The good news, however, is that doubt can be conquered.  Just simple conditioning can conquer it relatively easily.  That condition, it comes the fastest at least in my experience, that conditioning comes the fastest from one surrounding yourself with like-minded people.  Your environment will condition your thinking the fastest but be careful.  It works the other way also.

You surround yourself with negative thinkers.  You too will begin to think more negatively but you can use it in your favor.  You’ve got to be proactive about creating a productive environment.  I mean if doubt is eating at you.  You’ve got to create an empowering environment.  At the very least, seek out like-minded people.

I mean seek them out.  Don’t wait for them to show up.  I don’t want to hear any excuses either.  I mean there are clubs. There are associations.  There are online forums.  There are trade organizations.  There are hobby groups, professional groups, and church groups.  There are a bunch of places of which you can find like-minded people.  I mean even if you have to pay some sort of fee to join a group or to belong to a group.  Do it.  It’s that important.

I’m pretty sure that this website flourishes nationally but try meetup.com, m-e-e-t-u-p-.com.  It’s a social networking site that meets up offline.  They meet in person and there’s a group there.  Sometimes multiple groups for just about any possible interests that you may have.  I mean, anything.

You name it.  It can quote to extremes.  It has everything in between.  If you can’t find a group there that suits you, create one yourself.  This is your life.  Is it not worth it?  No excuses.  No excuses are allowed.  You see, you can make excuses or you can do over but you can’t do both.

So number one: interacting with like-minded people will combat doubt.  Something almost magical happens when you can connect with people that are doing what you want to do.  It brings your dreams and your ambitions into the realm of reality.  So don’t underestimate the power of a positive like-minded environment.

Number two: consume personal development material and consume it on a daily basis because of you are experiencing.  Motivation doesn’t last.  As Zig Ziglar said, “neither does bathing.”  That’s why we recommend it daily.

So, consume personal development material whether that’s through books, audios, seminars, or home study courses. I mean if it’s brand new to you, the book “Thinking Grow rich.”  Great place to start.    And gosh, I mean, it’s a great place if you’re a veteran.

Anthony Robbins is a personal favorite of mine.  His book “Awakening the Giant Within.” I’ve read it at least a half dozen times in the last four years.  And Og Mandino’s “The Greatest Salesman in the World.’  That’s another great book.  It’s a short, quick book.  Very profound.  And I do like the Love Attraction material as well, particularly when we are discussing a topic like we are today.  It’s perfect for that.  It’s perfect for conditioning that doubt out of your mind.

I just completed an extensive course on the 11 Forgotten Laws of which you can find thinkandattractsuccess.com.  It’s an affiliate of mine by the way.  I get a little from commission from that if you pick it up. But if thousands and thousands that I can promote, I choose to promote less than five.  That’s one that I do promote so you can find that at thinkandattractsuccess.com.

So those are a few of my favorites.  As you explore the world of personal development, you’ll come across your favorites as well but the point here is invest in your thinking as much as you invest in anything else.  Invest in your personal development.  It’s that important.

You know, a mentor of mine once shared with me that you’re income will never surpass your personal development.  Your bank account will never be larger than your growth so commit to it.  Riding yourself of doubt and transforming your thinking to that of one who successfully does over is merely a matter of conditioning so when in doubt, don’t.

If you absolutely must doubt something, doubt that you will fail.  That’s all I got for you today but we will resume this conversation on the next episode.  We will pick right up where we were leaving off.  We’re going to attack your motivation, your focus, and you thinking woes from every angle.  Keep trying on what I suggest just like that pair of sunglasses.  Sooner or later, preferably sooner, we will find that pair that fits.  God loves you and so do I.

I am Matt, the Do Over guy.  And I will see you next time in your Do Over.

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