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The best thing for you to do at any given time is to make the right decision.  The next best thing for you to do would be to make the wrong decision.  And the worst thing for you to do would be to make no decision at all.

However, even if you agree with this logic, most people will consistently engage in the “worst thing,” that is, make no decision at all.  Why is that?

On this episode, Matt shares the one important element he left out of Episode #57 with regard to the 3 decisions you are always making.  You see, episode #57 sent you out to take on the world without one invaluable tool: knowing how to beat indecision.  Tune in as Matt fills in that piece of the puzzle.

 

5 Important Lessons from the Episode

  • Rather than being paralyzed by the fear of making a bad decision, focus on your commitment to learning from your past mistakes.  That choice will greatly improve your odds of success and prevent you from falling into the trap of repeating your mistakes.
  • For most people, a significant Do Over will require developing new skills.  This will require learning and repetition.  Then, and only then, will you begin to see the results and see the future become clear.
  • Your commitment to developing your new skill will determine how soon you will get your desired results.  This is a simple, but important truth.  It doesn’t matter that you are “Doing Over” and starting from square one.  If you are prepared to put in the work, you can quickly realize success and surpass your competition.
  • It is easier to learn fast than it is to learn slow.  When you spread your learning out over several months and let time lapse between sessions, you spend a lot of time recapping what you’ve already done.
  • A good way to put your indecision in perspective is to remember that the time will pass whether or not you choose to act.  If you do nothing, one year from now you’ll find yourself wishing you’d have started today.

 

What You’ll Learn:

  • How fears impede your ability to make decisions, even if you understand why you should; and
  • How to push that fear aside and continue on your journey.
  • Why maintaining flexibility in your approach is imperative.
  • Why changing your results will require venturing into the unknown; and
  • How to reframe that journey into an exciting, rather than scary, endeavor.
  • How the words you are using have a significant impact on your emotions and your results.
  • What it takes to be labeled as “lucky.”
  • Where you are being a wussy in your Do Over and why you should care.
  • Why you should take on a new skill or improve a skill you already have; and
  • Which skills should be given priority.
  • Why learning a skill “slow and steady” may not be the best approach.
  • How each of us are rewarded in society.

 

Quotes

  • “Success in life is the result of good judgment.  Good judgment is usually the result of experience.  Experience is usually the result of bad judgment.” – Tony Robbins

 

Resources Mentioned in this Podcast:

  • Get started on your own “do over” by downloading “The 3 Pillars of Creating the Ultimate Do Over” at  https://FreeDoOver.com

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Podcast Transcript:

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Matthew Theriault: Welcome. This is episode 59 of the Your Do Over podcast, this is the place where I show people who want more out of life, people dissatisfied with their current situation. People who are sick and tired about being sick and tired or even people that are okay with life right now but just want a little more out of it. This is the place where I show them all how to start over and begin a new life setting goals and objectives so that they can create wealth, create financial freedom, create the lives of their dreams and just live that life, live those lives to the fullest. You can get your do over started fast by laying a solid foundation where you can download the Three Pillars of creating the Ultimate Do Over for free at FreeDoOver.com. It’s a 55-minute mp3 audio program that I put together, that I made just for you with three specific steps on how to get success as you start over and that’s yours for free at FreeDoOver.com.

Okay. So two episodes ago, episode number 57, we touched on three ways that you’re sabotaging your do over and how you don’t even know it. It revolved around your decisions. You know, deciding what to focus on, deciding what you make things mean and deciding what you are going to do about it. There is one element, a very important element of that conversation that I failed to bring up so I want to do that today.

It probably does warn an entire episode all of its own. You know as I’ve shared on this show before and in many episodes. I mean when it comes to decisions, the best thing you can do is to make the right decision. The next best thing you can do is to make the wrong decision. The worst thing you can do is to make no decision at all.

Now even if you accept my logic. It might not be enough to implement it. Meaning there is serious impediment to using the power of your decisions to their full potential. That impediment is our fears of making the wrong decisions.

We’re very afraid of making the wrong decisions. You know even if you understand that the best thing you can do is going to make the right decisions. The wrong, or the next best thing you can do is to make the wrong decision. The worst decision that you can make is making no decision at all even if you know that. There is still a huge amount of fear around making the wrong decision so what you got to do, you just basically got to push that fear aside.

I mean you’re going to mess things up. I guarantee it. You will make wrong decisions. I mean I make them daily but I expect to. You see it’s just the nature of making decisions. Some you get right. Some you don’t. But you got to keep making them to continue your progress, to continue moving forward. You see I’m focused and committed to my goals but I maintain flexibility in the decisions that I make to get there.

I look at the consequences. I evaluate and I learn from them. And then I use those lessons that those bad decisions blessed me with to make better decisions in the future. It’s just kind of how it works.

You know I love this quote, “success is the result of good judgment.” Good judgment is the result of experience. Experience is often the result of bad judgment. See much of your success is going to be laced with bad judgments. It maybe even be built on bad judgments. I mean that maybe the foundation; the wrong decisions can frequently be the building blocks of your success.
So as you commit to your goals, commit to learning from your wrong decisions, from your mistakes. Instead of just beating yourself up about them or being afraid to actually make them at all.

I mean if you don’t, you’re destined to make the same mistakes again in the future. So you know if you want to get something you’ve never had or something that you don’t have right now, you have to do something that you’ve never done. That right there says you’ll have to venture into the unknown where all of the wrong decisions await. They’re waiting for you.

That shouldn’t be scary. That should be good news. It’s very good news because that’s how you grow. That’s how you learn. And if what you’re after inside of your do over is of any significance whatsoever. Not only will you have to do something that you’ve never done before.

You are likely going to have to do it multiple times. I mean in other words, you’re going to have to learn a new skill. You’re going to get something that you’ve never had before that’s going to require a new skill to get it.

We all have skills. And at one point, we didn’t have them though. Right? I mean there is something that you know how to do that took you practice and repetition to get there.

We all have skills but at one point, we didn’t have that skill. You know to attain them, we had to learn them and we had to learn through repetition doing something over and over until it became a part of you.

And when it becomes a part of you, that’s when life gets easier. That’s when your do over will get easier. That’s when the cloudy mist right now will start to clear up and you’ll start to see the finish line. You’ll start to see the results. You’ll start to experience it.

You know as I explain this to my coaching clients invariably I get this question though. The question is how long is it going to take? Right?

Okay. Fine. I’ll do the repetition. I’ll go learn a new skill but how long is it going to take? And that question is usually wrapped in the context of “I don’t have a lot of time.”

I need to make money right now, Matt. I need to get results right now. I don’t have time to learn something else of which we know isn’t really true. I mean because you know if you look in your past when you thought you needed something right away, I mean you thought I have to have this right now. I’ve got the bills due tomorrow. I got to pay it tomorrow. Or someone is going to kill me or I’m going to die or whatever it maybe.

When you didn’t get it right away, look it. You survived. You’re here. Right? So you didn’t need it right away. I mean it would have been nice to have it. Probably it would have been more comfortable but you needed it.

I mean we all get to the words that we use in our conversation. I mean we’ll get to those types of words that we use in an upcoming episode but, I mean those words that we use like “I need this right now.” They have a significant impact on our lives and on our emotions. I don’t know with our results but I don’t want to get into that right now. I want to stay on subject.

So the question is how long will it take? And my typical and swift response is how long do you want it to take? And that answer is rarely received very well. People are looking at coaching. They want the answer. They want the magic formula. They want the pill. They want the silver bullet.

But when I give it, I’m not being a smartass. I mean I really mean it. I mean if you take a particular action, if you take that action 10 times a day to develop a skill while the ordinary person takes that action, say once a week to learn their skill or once a month really in most cases. You would have 10 weeks, if you took that action 10 times a day, you’d have 10 weeks or 10 months of experience in one day.

As a result, you will soon master your new skill definitely much faster than the ordinary person. And probably somewhere down the road, I can vouch for this and my coaching clients as well.

Somewhere down the road, you will be referred to as lucky or talented or gifted or you’re special. When in reality, it’s not at all the case. You know it’s not the case. You know it’s not the case because you just worked more in a smaller frame of time than most people do.

And this is a really, really powerful distinction that you can use for anything. I mean in any area of your life. For example, at the beginning of this year, I joined a cross fit gym. I absolutely loved it by the way.

If you don’t know what it is, I mean go to youtube and just search cross fit. I mean there are more videos about what cross fit is than you could possibly ever watch. Anyway, these cross fit workouts, they require out of the ordinary flexibility and in many cases out of the ordinary skills.

You know the first time you go in and you feel a little bit like a fish out of water, I mean especially if it’s been awhile since you’ve done anything physical. It’s been awhile since you’ve been working out.

I had been, I had led a rather sedentary lifestyle just prior to joining this gym and you know I’ve worked out my entire life often on. So I have been in the gym in the past so it’s not as foreign to me but up to this point in my life. You know workouts have been very traditional. You know you do some bench press. You do some arm curls. You do some squats, some sit ups, and then you know you hit the treadmill or stationary bikes something like that.

I’ve done a lot of all of those traditional exercises. A lot of those traditional workouts but with cross fit, it’s way, way different. I mean there’s no bench press. There’s no arm curls. There’s no treadmill.

But you do get to do squats. Lots of squats. Multiple variations of squats. There’s a lot of technique involved which I never had a clue. No one ever taught me the skill of doing a squat properly.

I had no idea. Now that I’m doing it properly. I’m lifting almost the double the weight I used to lift. It’s amazing. Just by having the right skill and the right technique. I just, I never had a clue.

I mean I could take up a few episodes describing all of the different types of exercises that we do and that’s a major reason why I like it so much. Really it is just the variety.

I think after 7 months, we’ve only repeated two or three of the workouts. So now, one of the exercises that shows up frequently in the workouts is something called “double unders.” It’s when you jump rope. The rope passes under your feet twice per jump. That’s why they call it “double unders.” (It) goes under you double times with one jump.

Now I can jump rope. I’ve always been pretty good at that. No problem there but this double under thing, not so much. But it’s no big deal though. I mean if you can’t do double unders during the workout, you can just scale it down and do triple the number, single jumps. That’s what I have been doing for about 6 months.

And then just a couple of weeks ago, I started looking around the gym. I noticed that I was the only one doing the single jumps. Everyone else was doing double unders. I was like this is weak. Come on, Matt. You’re better than this.

I’m the only one here now that can’t do them. So armed with this distinction that we’ve been discussing, how long will it take to master this skill? You know as long as you want it to take.

I just had no reason to go make it happen. I mean I just, after 6 months I just do triple the jumps. Everyone does 20 double unders. I do 60 singles. No big deal.

But I wasn’t progressing. I wasn’t challenging myself. That wasn’t what I was supposed to be doing. it was just to do that until you can actually get to the point where you do the double unders. But I wasn’t even practicing the double unders so I wasn’t making any progress there.
So arms with this, hey, it’s just going to take as long as I needed to take. I knew that if I wanted to have those double unders under control by the following workout. I just had to make the commitment to learn and pack a month’s worth of practicing into one day.

That’s what I did. You know what? After only about 20 minutes of focused practice, only 20 minutes of focused practice, 6 months have passed and I couldn’t do them. After only 20 minutes of focused practice, 6 months had passed and I couldn’t do them.

After only 20 minutes of focused practice, I had them down. little shaky but I had them down. I was doing it. I mean it was just so much easier than I thought it was going to be.

Because I was terrible at it at first, I thought it was going to be really difficult and take a really long time to learn so I never really tried to learn. I just kept on putting it off. Then 6 months, I mean I basically just over 6 months I took the wussy way out.

I was a wuss. And I just hit a point where my ego was messing with me. My ego, it looked around and saw everyone else is doing it. I wasn’t so I forced myself to learn. Now I got these double unders down.

You know just yesterday we had a workout where we had to do 50 push press, 100 squats, 150 sit ups, and then finish with 200 double unders. The weight for the push press was a little heavy for me so I felt behind because it’s kind of somewhat of a, it’s not necessarily competition. I guess there’s an underlying unsaid competition in cross fit because there’s other people in the gym doing the exact, the same workout as you are at the same time.

So you always got your perform vision on the next guy to see how far along they are or how much they’re lifting. So there is just an underlying tone of competition. So I kind of fell behind a little bit with the push press. It was a little bit heavy for me. I’m okay with the squats but still not as strong as most of the people there so I felt even a little bit more behind.

And there was time for the 150 sit ups. I kept paced. Okay? I’m okay with my sit ups. I kept paced with the group but when it was time for the 200 double unders to move on to that final stage.

Because I have committed to a month’s worth of experience and one day to get them down just a week before that. I made up much of the ground beat that I’ve lost because I was now better than most of the class in those double unders.

That’s what developing a skill can do for your final results. It’s how you beat the competition. It’s how win. It’s not really about you beat your competition but you eliminate the competition so you don’t have to worry about it.

And it’s just, it’s really how you succeed. And it’s why your do over can be a success. So let me ask you. Where are you being? I’m going to be the director for you. okay?

Where are you being a wussy in your do over? Where are wussing out? Where are you taking the easy path out? What are you avoiding? What’s skill if you were to acquire would impact your results the greatest?

Don’t tell me that there isn’t one because there is. They’re always is. There’s always some new skill to learn or one that could be vastly improved on that will impact your results always.

Because if you don’t have what you want, there’s something that you’re not doing or you’re not doing it as well as you could be. But there’s something that you could take on new. A new skill that you could take on or you can improve on one that somewhat lack luster.

So let’s just basically ditch the fear of making the wrong decisions. Just stop being a wuss. Stop being a wussy and let’s take on a new skill or improve a skill that we already have. Stop whining about it. Okay?

Stop whining about it. No wussies allowed. Hey. It’s rarely fun to learn something new. I get it. It’s not fun to learn something new. And face it. It’s impossible to learn something new and look good. So give that up. Let that go.

All right? Stop trying to or avoiding learning something new because you’re afraid people are going to look at you and they’re going to laugh at you. They’re going to point or they’re going to make fun or they’re just going to talk behind your back. Whatever it is just because you appear not to be so good at it.

Hey. That’s inevitable. It’s impossible to learn something new and look good. So give that up. Stop being a wuss. What activity can you take on and commit to 10 times per day?

How can you pack 10 months of activity into one day? I mean just do it 10 times per day? And here’s what you’ll find. It’s easier to learn fast than it is slow. It’s easier to learn fast than to learn slow.

I took on those double unders in 20 minutes. I had it because I committed to it. You’re going to find most skills are like that. It might not be 20 minutes depending on the skill but you’re going to find it’s a lot easier to learn fast than it is slow.

Because you see, when you spread your learning out over 10 months let’s say and you let too much time pass in between attempts, you tend to forget much of what you learn previously and then you got to recap.

You got to somewhat start all over. That really slows things down. I mean, hey. You just said you needed to be successful right now. Right? You got bills to pay right now. Right?

Well, do what you’ve got to do to acquire the skills that will pay you what you need to get, what you want right now. Does that makes sense? Because nobody is going to do it for you. Nobody is going to give it to you.

The skill you have to acquire all on your own. That’s how you’re ultimately going to be rewarded in society. You know I remember when I was right, when I was bagging groceries. I was debating, do I want to go back to school? And go back and get a degree? Because certainly, bagging groceries wasn’t an option for me much longer.

And I thought about that I was 34 and go back to school, I only have one year of college under my belt so I’ve probably forgot everything that I learned there anyway so I got at least four years of college that I’m going to take on. So 34, I’m going to be 38 years old by the time I get my degree.

I was like, ewww. I don’t want to be 38 years old and then inviting people to my graduation. But in a hindsight I look at it and this is one of the powerful distinctions I’ve ever have right now because now I’m going to be 43 next month.

And you know, it’s unfortunate we learn these lessons when half of our life has passed but that’s just kind of how it works. But when I was 34 years old, those 4 years are going to pass anyway so whether I want to be in those, after those 4 years has passed. Did I want to be 38 with the degree or do I want to 38 without a degree?

And that’s not, that’s not that to talk about whether a degree is a good decision or not. It’s to talk about whether whatever you are avoiding right now. If you’re putting it off because you know you feel you’re too old or you’re not, it’s going to take too long. Whatever it is, that time is going to pass anyway.

So say it’s a skill that’s going to take you a year but you didn’t want to take off a year or commit a year to learning it. Well that year is going to arrive anyway. Where do you want to be once that year does arrive?

Do you want to be who you are right now in a year? Or do you want to be who you want to be right now with that new skill in a year? It’s going to happen either way. Okay? But you’ve got to do it.

You’ve got to acquire the skill on your own. Nobody is going to do it for you. And I got to say it that’s how you’re ultimately rewarded in society. It’s based off of your skill. I mean each and everyone of us are compensated based on what we do, how well we do it, and how difficult it is to replace us.

You got that? Compensated based on what we do, how well we do it, and how difficult it is to replace us. So whatever it is that you do, do what you do, and do it well.

Be difficult to replace. You get there by learning fast. That’s the first step. Block out some time each day to practice whatever it is that you need to learn or improve on that will impact the result within your do over the most. You got it?

I want you to block out some time each day, everyday, a little bit of time or a lot of time. It just depends on how fast you want it to happen but block out a little bit of time each day to practice whatever it is that you need to learn or whatever it is you need to improve on that’s going to impact the results within your do over the most. Stop being a wuss. Okay?

That’s it for today. God loves you and so do I. I am Matt, the Do Over guy. I will see you on the next episode of Your Do Over.

(Voice Over): Thank you for tuning in Your Do Over where the ignored, underestimated, and unknown steps to producing results and making life work are revealed. Remember, knowledge is potential power. Take action on what you learned today. This is not your learn over. It’s your Do Over. To view the resources, reference in today’s show and to retrieve the complete show transcript. Visit www.TheDoOverGuy.com. Stay connected with Matt “Do Over Guy” Theriault on Twitter at the Do Over Guy and on FaceBook at www.facebook.com/DoOverGuru.

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